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People who know me personally know I'm not so good with the friendship thing.  I don't believe in having a best friend and all or in this "squad thing " I prefer being my own squad . Although  I actually had a "best friend once " but that was in junior school. I met this my friend in basic 7 ,she was quiet and shy just like me and we became good friends . Later on,we found out that both our dads were good friends and even attend the same church lol.We became close and then she became my best friend, this my friend was very nice to me ,whenever I needed anything I could run to her for help,especially when i needed to get an assignment done.
Fast forward to basic 9, we weren't in the same class but "nothing could stop our friendship ' thats what i thought, her class became my second class because whenever I was free I was there , I think I was in basic 9 topaz and she was in basic 9 gold .
     Although I was frequently going to meet her,she never bothered to come to my class and all . I asked her why and she said she was shy lol . I was shy too but then I realized my best friend had other best friends in her class ,it wasn't jealousy, I wasn't jealous. I felt betrayed or somewhat surprised, My best friend changed, she wasn't the same person I knew in basic 7 ,I'm not against change because change is the only constant thing in life but then there's the positive change and then the negative change. The change I'm talking about here is the negative one, my friend started hanging out with the "cool kids lol" ,doing things  i'd never ever think she'd do.
        She later on started dating this guy and one time I confronted her about this friendship thing and she told me we don't have to be friends anymore that blew me away . I'm not trying to place all the blame on my friend ,I know I was at fault too ,I was always the bossy one ,the dictator I guess and my friend got new friends where she could also get to be the boss and dictator . Anyways we didn't talk for three months ,call us childish . It was hard to keep fighting or quarreling with her because we were family friends ,our parents suspected something was going on , we began talking and I actually apologised but I knew she couldn't be my best friend anymore,she had her friends and clearly I didn't like the " new" her . Fast forward to ss1 second term ,this my friend began to say stuffs behind me calling me all sorts,I wasn't even surprised when I heard all the stuffs but then I learnt alot from this experience.  We made up,we are still friends now but not best friends. Ever since ,the whole friend drama ,I had new friends, good ones infact but I don't think i can easily give anyone the title of being "my bestfriend" .
 So I prefer being my own squad lol and I'm greatful to God for blessing me with a mother I can share everything to and one thing I learnt through this friend stuff was to improve on myself,I'm a strong member of self development and I think you should too , I know some people who can't walk alone they need their friends with them and all,I understand, I was once like that . I'm not saying we shouldn't have best friends but ensure  we are improving with our friends, ensure your friends help you to become a better person.  I can boast of two friends that I know i can trust . I hope this made sense .

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  1. Unknown26 June 2016 at 07:10

    It does make sense, a whole lot of sense actually... Our experiences make us stronger.

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